NLP for improving couples communication

Help a couple's conversation reach a new place.

An NLP workshop on improving communication between partners: identify what triggers recurring conflicts, develop your listening, and learn how to guide change processes with couples or with one of the partners.

For graduates of NLP Master Practitioner. Students currently on the track can get in touch to check suitability and confirm participation.

Registration for the cohort is currently closed. You can start with the intro session.

Join the free intro session

01Recognize the patterns that bring a couple back to the same argument
02Deepen your listening and understand the needs within the relationship
03Learn to work with couples as well as with one partner

The pressures of life, unresolved baggage, poor communication patterns,
and unprocessed past experiences create many challenges in a relationship.

Over the years, the same arguments come up again and again
The baggage piles up
Blame replaces listening
You feel worn down and exhausted
Unhelpful patterns set in
The partners drift apart
And the heart closes…

In the workshop we will learn to work with these communication patterns,
and to practice listening and new ways of holding a conversation as a couple.

How can NLP improve communication between partners?

More often than not, the issue is interpersonal communication – and that is exactly our method's strong suit!
As you already know, NLP promotes effective interpersonal communication

Speaking in a calm way
Building rapport
Applying the basic presuppositions

Moving between the three perceptual positions
Giving constructive criticism
Reflecting, holding space, listening, understanding, supporting and cheering each other on

Join Daphna and Amir Retter and learn from them, drawing on their wealth of experience,
how to improve your own relationship
and how to help others do the same!

The workshop facilitators

The workshop will be co-facilitated by Daphna and Amir Retter
They have been married for more than thirty years, mostly happily, thanks to the tools of NLP
Parents of 5 adults and teenagers
They founded Retter College together and have run it since 1994

Daphna Retter

One of Israel's leading NLP and guided imagery facilitators and a pioneer of the method (since 1994). Holds the NLP Master Trainer certification from NLP University (NLPU). Has written 20 books and study booklets to date that accompany the college's study tracks. Coordinates the third year (NLP Trainer and specializations). Holds a degree in social work. Amir's partner and a mother of five.

Amir Retter

Holds the ranks of NLP Master Trainer and NLP New Code Trainer (certified directly by Prof. John Grinder), and Time Line Therapy™ Master Trainer, certified by Tad James. Coordinates the study tracks of the two-year program. Holds a degree in electronic engineering. Daphna's partner and a father of five.

What will you learn in the workshop?

Characteristics of good communication between partners
The model of the man and the woman within you
Creating a safe, holding space for both partners
Building rapport with a couple
Defining the couple's shared goal with a tailored questionnaire
The Imago approach model
Leslie Cameron-Bandler's questions

Establishing communication patterns that bring partners closer
Types of conflict (misunderstanding, beliefs or values, identities)
Conflict resolution techniques(Gordon's six steps, reallocating roles, step-by-step feedback and more)
Sustaining the change through a task
Concluding the treatment and planting a future goal
The "Sistema" dance technique

In this workshop we will teach only processes we have not taught before,
adapted for working with couples.

What our graduates say

Moriah – couples and sex counselor, NLP Trainer
“I came for enrichment and received a great deal of organized, professional added value.
It improved the treatments in my clinic and my personal life”
Moriah – couples and sex counselor, NLP Trainer
Sveta Rayer – social worker and NLP Trainer, came with her husband
“Any therapist who comes across this subject in the clinic, or the dialogue between partners
that one of their clients brings along, I highly recommend that you come to the workshop”
Sveta Rayer – social worker and NLP Trainer, came with her husband
Simcha Dagani, clinic owner
“Wow, we were shown a mirror on choosing a partner and on discovering the secret.
And once you know that? You can solve so many things. A must for clinic owners”
Simcha Dagani, clinic owner
Yael Nussenbaum
“This workshop gave me the tools to treat couples
and it was wonderful. I learned so many new and good things”
Yael Nussenbaum

Who is the workshop for?

For NLP Master Practitioner graduates, from Retter College or any other institution
* If you have not yet completed the training, please check with a college representative and get approval to participate
For facilitators who want to expand their clinic and work with couples too
For those who want to improve communication in their current relationship
For those who aspire to find a new relationship
For the partners of participants

This workshop is for you (dear NLPists), and you are more than welcome to come and experience it with your partners (who are not NLPists, but are dear too…)!
Participants from previous workshops who came with their partners reported a renewed sense of connection,
changes in how they see each other, and joy in the shared process.
That said, please know that most participants come without a partner, and that is perfectly fine.

Lilach, NLP Trainer, came with her husband

“Thanks to the workshop (and after 8 children) I felt a whole new life.
I am still in awe and so full – it gave me a real wow!”
Lilach, NLP Trainer, came with her husband

Why should you come with your partner?

Partners who are not NLPists will greatly enjoy getting to know the world you love so much, and it will give them a way into a field that matters so much to you. Along the way, you will improve your communication as a couple
The practice sessions in the workshop will sometimes be in pairs and sometimes in threes. Our "client" will be one partner or both partners (couples will be especially in demand...)
You will gain shared quality time and create a new language as a couple that will stay with you
You will develop mutual responsibility for your relationship

We'll meet again further along the way